Serenity. What are your goals to Living Well.

Hello everyone!

I hope your week was well. I wanted to share some of my favorite serene photos with you all.

 Do you have a plan on how your going to live well?

What does living well mean for you?
Does living well mean you can afford to move to a desirable neighbourhood?
Does it mean you can return to school and finish a degree or do post graduate studies?
Does living well for you mean, getting out there meeting new people and changing your everyday experience to enhance your outlook and gain new friends?
Does living well mean dating men from a more desirable pool instead of the ones you are currently running into?

For example, dating men who have a degree in a chosen field and are actively working in it. If you have looked backed on your dating candidates and realized that you have constantly dated "down" when you yourself  have a degree then maybe a part of living well for you may be dating someone whose credentials that more resembles your own?

What does living well mean for you?

Sit down today with a pen and paper and write down all the things you feel would allow you to live well.

For example:

1. having a car
2. finding friends who share your eclectic interests
3. meeting new people
4. getting married
5. meeting and dating someone who fits better with and shares your values
6. kayaking

Etc

What are your short term goals to getting there?

1. taking a look at your finances, going to the bank and speaking to an advisor, and putting away a certain amount per pay cheque (maybe automatically from your account each pay day) and adding bonus' to save for your car

2. Figuring out what your interests are and researching places where you can d those interests and meet new people i.e meetup.com

3. Looking up local festivals in your city, going (you might have to go by yourself but its actually not as bad as you think) by yourself or with a friend and smiling, looking approachable, initiating conversation with people

4. Are you single or attached? If your single, joining online dating services, speaking to a matchmaker (there are a lot around), telling friends and family that your single, going out to singles events, clubs with your girls, festivals anywhere. Are you attached? Evaluating where your relationship is and deciding whether your happy or unsatisfied. Those answers are yours only. But deep down your gut will tell you the truth more then your head will reason. Trust your gut not your ability to reason something away. It makes a difference between staying because you have a great catch or staying well past your relationships expiry date.

5. If you've decided that you are indeed in a relationship with someone who does not match your values and you have decided its best to part ways (hopefully you didn't do it in a bad way) then you are probably open to meeting someone who more matches your values and ideals. So how do you go about meeting that person? Well ask yourself first if you love, care and know who YOU are as a person and what you have to offer. The most important of these is love because if you love yourself then that means you know who you are and you automatically care about yourself and welfare. If you've answered yes to those questions then please review points 2,3, and the first part of point 4.

6. Sign up for a kayaking lesson and go do it! Also a great way to meet new people :)

So now that you've mapped it out, now its time to set up short term goals that you can meet in order to achieve them. You might not want to do all 6 at once. Prioritize the list and tackle it in manageable bits being careful not to overwhelm yourself with the enormity of each task.

This is an example and may very well not be what your idea of living well is. Whatever your ideas of living well, write it down, then break it down into manageable smaller goals with realistic deadlines for you to reach them. You will surprise yourself with what you can achieve when you dare to dream, then write down that dream and tackle it one bit at a time.

I'll leave you with one final thought.

 In everything evaluate the cost to yourself. The cost in time, money, the cost in relationships and the cost in your emotional and mental health. If the cost nets you a great return on your investment do it. If not, then evaluate your timing and strategy. Modify if need be. Its entirely up to you. Its your life, and your journey to living well.

Stay blessed!

Till we talk again :)


PS. How are your 5 Things That You Are Thankful for Coming along?